Our understanding of baby psychology and parent psychology is superficial. Much accepted knowledge is based upon erroneous theories and ideas. Baby psychology and parent psychology are interconnected and affect one another. To properly understand a baby, it is important to understand common negative family dynamics, and serious disorders and dysfunctional behavior patterns that are present in the lives of most people. These factors influence exchanges, agreements, and reactions that occur subconsciously between baby and parents.
Before birth and during infancy (until a child acquires social language skills) baby and parent communications take place naturally and primarily as subconscious communications. When parents are extremely selfish and negative, it creates a distressing and painful mental and emotional experience for a vulnerable and sensitive unborn baby or infant.
Unborn babies are alive and growing the moment the sperm penetrates the egg. It takes about three weeks before the physical heart starts beating. By sixth weeks, babies are rotating their arms, legs, and head. Their physical movements reveal whether they are feeling comfortable or uncomfortable, and, also, give the babies a sense that they are separate from their environment.
By twelve weeks, their major physical organs are developed enough to be visible, and they have begun regular observable cycles of activity and rest. By fifteen weeks, ultrasound recordings show fetuses moving in response to their mothers’ laughs or coughs. They demonstrate an ability to taste and discern taste differences between sweet, bitter, and sour.
Four-month old fetuses make “purposeful movements” such as sucking their thumb in an effort to calm themselves when stressed or threatened. Ultrasound images have captured unborn twins expressing a variety of feelings by repeatedly hitting, kicking, kissing, or playing together inside the womb. They develop the ability to hear sounds at around four months, which enables. them to take a giant leap in awareness. Even though a baby’s physical ears will not be fully formed until the sixth month, experiments confirm that unborn babies are able to hear months before that time because of a primal listening system. Babies in the womb seem able to memorize the voices of their mothers (and fathers). Immediately after birth, tests show that many prefer their mother’s voice when exposed to the voices of a variety of other women.
Their eyelids remain fused until the sixth month. Yet, amazingly, experiments show that unborn babies are actually able to “see” months before their eyelids open. They can “see” without the use of their physical eyes. They visibly respond when a bright light is shone on the outside of their mothers’ stomachs. Some fetuses move toward and fixate on the light, others move away from the light apparently disturbed by it. In reacting to the lights, prenates are demonstrating their ability to see objects in space and respond to them in a determined and coordinated way.
During the sixth month, brain wave tests pick up periods of REM sleep indicating a “dream state,” and dreaming signifies thinking and the processing of images that have meaning to the baby. Facial expressions and body movements that occur while a fetus is sleeping show whether a baby is having a pleasant or unpleasant sleep experience.
Fetuses apparently listen all the time and are observed moving their bodies and dancing to the rhythm of their mothers’ speech and moving to certain kinds of music. Most fetuses are “startled” by a loud noise, but learn to discriminate and ignore certain routine noises that reoccur in their external environments.
Scientists have done studies that demonstrate that by the sixth month, a prenate has the ability to remember and retain memories. At this time, they are able to discern subtle differences in their mothers’ attitudes and feelings and have been observed responding to them. Psychological, neurological, biochemical and psychological testing done on unborn babies in the womb point to the fact that fetuses make choices, think, feel, remember, hear, learn, and react in positive or negative ways. Science now confirms that the unborn baby ready to be born already has a distinctive, observable personality.
Reaction – Reactive Patterns of Behavior
Unborn babies shape their attitudes by how they choose to react to what they are feeling and perceiving. They start forming their basic approaches to life by their choices in relation to the intentions, attitudes, choices, and demands of their mothers and fathers, and the various subconscious messages they receive from their parents during womb life.
Bundles of pain
By the time our babies arrive into the air world, they are already weighed-down with substantial, subconscious, negative psychological “baggage.” At birth, many are “bundles of pain,” not bundles of joy.